Valladolid, Apr 24 (EFE).- Psychologist Javier Urra, one of the specialists participating in the Day on Child-to-Parent Violence that the Courts of Castilla y León host this Monday, has warned that the majority of the victims of this violence are mothers and that this is a determining factor towards potential partner violence in the future.
In statements to EFE, Urra has maintained that these cases of child-to-parent violence, 60% of which are carried out by boys and 40% by girls, have a “bad prognosis” as a foretaste of possible cases of gender violence, since the figure that is mostly attacks is that of the mother.
Girls stand out in cases of serious psychological violence
The psychologist has indicated that not only the boys, protagonists of the most violent cases, but also these girls, especially in cases of serious psychological violence, maintain a “quite macho attitude”, which in the case of them usually has its origin in who lives how “the mother puts up with a lot from the father”, which also leads her to “despise” and “ridicule” her.
Urra has also highlighted that one of the factors that abound in cases of violence between children towards parents is that of adoption, with the particularity that the incidence is higher in cases of minors from Eastern Europe, with nuances such as the syndrome feto-alcohol and an emotional relationship based on the fact that minors “want to love their adoptive parents” but are wary of completely breaking their bond with their biological parents.
The specialist, director of the ReCURRA Ginso center in Madrid, through which some 1,200 adolescents have passed, has indicated that the latest report from the Prosecutor’s Office establishes that these cases of child-to-parent violence “are on the rise”, at least the complaints that are processed, although He has added that perhaps this increase also has to do with the emergence of cases when learning that there are legal and assistance resources to try to resolve the situation.
Regarding the incidence of confinement due to the covid pandemic in an increase in cases, Urra has maintained that it has not been very significant and has defended that they are more structural situations that are forged from childhood -affective relationship, lack of limits, children tyrants- and that are unleashed fundamentally in adolescence, whatever the context.
Ten months without mobile
The formula to care for these minors and improve their situation is “love, the establishment of limits and clear rules and the transmission of values”: “They improve a lot”, he has summarized his experience in the center he runs, financed with funds from the Ministry of Health and with about 120 professionals.
“Ten months without a mobile phone… and nothing happens”, the specialist remarked about one of the ingredients of the stay at ReCurra Ginso, convinced that families have to regain respect as a positive factor and leave behind that feeling of creating “traumas” to children under 8 years of age with whom they “cannot” later.
Urra has recognized that denouncing a child “is very hard”, because it implies the feeling that society “is going to judge that they have done badly as parents”, which means that in “many cases” silence prevails, but the Justice and in several autonomies social resources can channel this situation.
The expert will coincide this afternoon with other specialists in the conference organized in the Courts of Castilla y León by the Stop Family Violence Association, such as the magistrate-judge of Granada, Emilio Calatayud -will participate by videoconference-; and the psychologists Rafael Llor and Amalia Izquierdo. EFE
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